Illness and Perspective: Monthly Reader Question

How has a loved one’s illness changed how you view life?

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6 Responses to “Illness and Perspective: Monthly Reader Question”

  1. Cathy Locher Says:

    I wish I had listened more and talked less when I was around a loved one who was dying. I’ve discovered how many caring and considerate people there are at all levels in the medical field, and that for the most part rude or thoughtless individuals really are in the minority in that field. When I’m asked to remember someone who is ill in my prayers, I do that. But I also include prayers for their loved ones and care givers.

  2. Dagmar Says:

    I learned many many years ago when my husand died of prostrate cancer – our children were already adults – the importance of keeping close contact with immediate family members — even nephews –I am 89 now – was 68 then

  3. Patricia Harre Says:

    Four years ago, my very healthy husband became ill and died suddenly. As with a lot of widows, I was left in a total sense of shock….I had always considered myself a Christian (Protestant), but took very little comfort in my faith at this terrible time.
    We had just built a very large home, on five acres, which was completely too much for me to handle so, when I was offered a more than fair price (in a very bad market) for it, I accepted it. Blindly, I chose to move to an “Active Adult” community about an hour away from my previous address….my friends and family were horrified that I would make such a rash decision so quickly after my husband’s death.
    Well, to make an already long story short, my new cable system carried EWTN (my old one hadn’t) and, through its message, I have accepted the reason for the incredible things that have changed my life so drastically. It was to bring me to a wonderful understanding of God’s reason for letting me go through such a terrible experience. I was educated in Catholic schools and had a great fondness for the Church so, at this time in my life, I was able to convert and reach a serenity with my situation that amazes most of the people who knew me “when.” So many wonderful things have happened to me in the last four years that I have no doubt that the Lord holds each one of us in His hands and nothing happens to us that is not for our own good!

  4. Suzanne Says:

    My husband has gone to the Lord 16 days ago. It is difficult to say how this has changed my life…but I’ll try. I feel like my insides have been torn out and I am a shell of myself. I view life now through a new filter. I care less about things that were important, and more about finding my path…whatever it is…wherever it leads me. My husband told me to keep on doing all the things I usually do when he was gone. Is that possible? I don’t know. I lay all of this at the foot of the cross of Jesus, my Lord… and trust in Him to fix me.

  5. Sharon Says:

    Widowed at age 37 by cancer, my life seemed to have been violently cleaved into “before” (the part I identified as my life) and “after” (the part I hated but had to live with). During my husband’s illness, dealing with cancer, all perspective changed. All that stuff that had mattered for some reason was now out the window. Only life and death issues were of any significance. Then, after my husband’s death, gradually, came a new appreciation of life. Of the day-to-day gift from God that so many of us take for granted. Now I try to live every day to its fullest, with the realization that it may be my last.

  6. Jen R. Says:

    My grandfather beat prostate cancer only to be diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer a few weeks later. He was told he had weeks, maybe months. His response was to comfort the doctor who had given him the news. The dignity with which he accepted his diagnosis, illness, and death was a lesson in love, acceptance, and grace.

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